So you’ve taken the leap. You’ve booked yourself a boudoir session. Now what? The nerves kick in. Trust me, we all get them! Just like you, nearly every woman who has entered our studio has felt awkward, nervous, self-conscious, etc. There is no need to feel this way… trust in yourself! You chose this photographer for a reason, you’re doing this session for a reason, let’s focus on those things! Still nervous? Here are my top 3 tips to surviving your first boudoir session!
While shopping for lingerie and different looks for your session, remember to select multiple different options. Look for different materials (silk, lace, velvet, etc.) AND different coverage levels (modest, revealing, etc.). Many women choose to start in their modest looks, and slowly go more revealing and intimate as they warm up and get more comfortable. Make sure you also take the time to try on every piece that you are even considering, don’t pay attention to what size the tag says, pay attention to how it fits your body and how it makes you feel.
Physically Loosen Up – Stretch. Stretch. Stretch. During your session, you will most likely have to be in some positions that you haven’t been in (drastically arching back, standing on tip toes, etc.). While these things are not always required (if you’re injured, PLEASE bring this to your photographer’s attention!) they are very common during sessions. To help your body not be sore or hurting the next day, make sure that you stretch the few days following up to your session!
Mentally Loosen Up – The night before your session, remind yourself of why you’re doing this! Is it to celebrate a birthday? Is it a gift for your significant other? Is it a way to remember how much of a badass you are? Whatever the reason, focus on this! Push all of the worries out of your mind to focus on your reason, while prepping yourself (face mask, shaving, waxing, stretching, etc.). On your drive over to your session, blast your hype playlist! If you don’t have one, make sure you take the time to put together a few of your favorite songs beforehand for this very reason. When you arrive at your session (if your photographer isn’t already playing music), ask them to turn on some! Some studios have playlists already put together for boudoir sessions (ours does!) and some will even ask your favorite music ahead of time to have this playing.
Make sure you discuss this with your photographer in advance. Many studios have a closed studio policy – meaning guests during the session are not allowed. This helps the team focus and not be distracted by another party in the room. The closed studio policy is typically only during the actual session, and guests are allowed at the photo reveal. If you would be more comfortable with a friend at your reveal, make sure you find someone who is a hype-man (if they are ever critical of you, do NOT bring them). Their one and only job is to hype you up. Also, make sure that your guest (if they have any financial say in this event) is aware of the costs associated with the products and expectations that you have.